Songs of Solomon taught me that there might be at least two kinds of girls – the walls and the doors.
If you’re a wall as a single lady, it’s going to be difficult for any man to gain access to your inner treasure. And your virginity is intact.
Of course, you can gain access to a wall but that is, if you’re a criminal – a thief and a rapist. Aside that, a wall is secure, reliable and honourable.
But a door…
That can be open and close at will, especially by the person who has a key to that door. Some ladies would always helplessly open their legs to certain men because they seem to have their key. They can’t help it.
Though it varies, some doors were open once or twice in error while others seem to be permanently open to all a sundry – no key needed.
Question is…which one are you? Door? Or a wall?
Statistics has shown that the so-called unmarried christian singles are having sex as regularly as their non-christian counterpart.
Here in Nigeria,I discover, with all our unique sanctimonious attitude, our christian singles are having more sex than the muslims.
What a figure!
But that’s closer to the truth. Pre-marital sex is happening everyday and we only get to see it at pregnancy.
Somehow I believe this is due to certain misconceptions we have about sex. Many of them are lies. Let’s review a few.
That’s true,right? It’s a lie. Let me ask you a question, adulthood begins from what age? Did you say 18? So if am eighteen,though not married, does that mean I have licence to have sex? Think again.
The real truth? Sex is for two people who are married to each other. The licence there is marriage,not age.
This is one of the ways the mainstream media is not helping. What’s right and wrong is completely reduced to feelings. “Just follow your instinct,” they say. But there’s a way that seems good but the end thereof is destruction. Your instinct can be a highway to your extinct.
How many times have you seen that in a movie? Countless, right? I’m sure you watched Titanic. Didn’t you see Jack and Rose? How many time did they have sex without figuring out marital issues first? It just happened, right?
It’s only in the movies. That’s why we’re having heartbreaking and heartbreakers all the time. Sex and love are two different things. For instance, call girl doesn’t need to love you before she can make your head swell with sex. It’s just her duty.
Again, this is from movies too. You only need to watch pornographic movie once to start seeing sex as fun. No wonder, people use to say, ‘we had fun’ in those to mean they had sex.
Hello, did you call sex a fun?
Something that almost killed someone? Got her a bastard as a child? That made 13 year old raise two kids on her own without education? That gave another an incurable disease? A fun…? I don’t think so.
And it’s not your fault, the movie won’t show those unpleasant part.
With what? Condom. I see. No wonder they no longer distribute free textbooks and writing materials anymore. What they distribute in schools now is condom.
But they need a special kind of condom for us christians. I might even use it myself if they can get me that type. The type that won’t only protect from sexual diseases and unwanted pregnancies but will also protect the heart from guilt. Yes, that one. A condom for the heart, can I get?
Here’s my closing word for the single ladies. Your virginity is still as priceless as your most valuable treasure, don’t let them devalue it. Guard it with all you’ve got. Even the devil still want to marry a virgin.
Besides it will safe you a lot of heartaches. Is it not better to stay a wall than being a door. And to the doors, thank God for his mercy. He can’t make you a virgin again but he can have mercy. We all need that.
See you later.
Segun Dada is God’s Own Errand Boy, and Yours. He writes to relegate fluffy stuffs by promoting real Values.