SEXCUSES! 4 LIES THEY TOLD US ABOUT SEX AND WHY YOU SHOULDN’T FALL FOR ANY.

The teachers,experts, and some church leaders have lied to us for decades… about sex.

So painful…

Today, I’ve decided we should take a look at 4 of them and to debunk each.

Lies #1: Sex isn’t for the kids…

True, right?

Yes.

Except it’s not the whole truth.

How many times have you heard the so-called adults remind us that sex isn’t for kids. I bet it’s countless time.

Lie!

The real truth has been skillfully hidden in that statement. Grow up and you can have sex.

That only the adults who have reached maturity age and are responsible enough for the consequence are free to enjoy sex.

In other word, if I’m 25 and earning enough income, I’m free. How does that agree with the real truth?

The truth: Sex isn’t for all adults too.

First, we need to remind ourselves. Biblical emphasis on sex has nothing to do with age and responsibility. It has more to do with marital status.

1Cor 7:3 makes it clear that what qualifies you for sex is marriage, no matter how old – or young – you may be. So sex is only provided for in marriage, not constitution.

Lie #2: Sex is for married people.

I know I’m confusing you, let me explain.

Another distorted view of sex, it assumes marriage is a licence for sex.

Not the whole truth.

That’s why we see married people chasing after both married and unmarried people to fulfil their sexual urges.

Truth: Sex is for only the couple (two spouses) in a marriage.

Marriage only give you the right to sleep only with your own wife – the person you’re married to. Sleeping with another married – or unmarried – that isn’t your spouse is adultery. A sin.

“Drink water from your own well – share your love only with your wife. Why spill the water of your springs in public, having sex with just anyone” (Pro 5:15,16 NLT).

Next!

Lie #3: Sex is limited to coitus or sexual intercourse only.

To say that sex means coitus is to limit it to the physical insertion of a male genitals into the female’s sexual organ – specifically, vaginal.

Ironically, this is contrary to the views of some professionals who view sex as a process rather than a single act.

I believe this lie was created as a blanket to cover up for most sexual aberrations.

For instance, where will it leave the lesbians and gays? Oral and anal sex? Where will it leave masturbation, phone sex and the rest?

Truth: Sex means more than coitus.

First, sex isn’t one single act, it’s a process that reaches a climax. And it doesn’t have to reach virginal-to-penis-penetration stage before it becomes sex.

Biblically, there are two reasons for sex – pleasure and procreation. But more people have sex for pleasure than the other reason. If you see it that way then you can understand why sex is a process.

Sex for pleasure starts from an arousal that climaxes in orgasm or ejaculation at the height of its pleasure.

Most people don’t need coitus to get to that level. That explains where the homosexuals seem not to care. Why people masturbate, do oral or anal sex to get that pleasure.

Why?

Sex isn’t about coitus alone – though that’s a major part.

Interestingly, Jesus taught us that this process actually begins from the heart.

“But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already commited adultery with her in his heart” (Matt 5:29).

In other word, you don’t need to get to the ‘downtown’ before you become an adulterer, or fornicator.
Got the point?

Everyone is doing it.

Um…well…it looks like this is true. Almost everyone is doing it. That is, if you consider the statistics that show 80% of single christians admits to having had sex before marriage.

Myles Collier has summarised this stats by saying “Young christians are having sex almost as regularly as their non-christian counterpart”.

True.

Even here, research shows young christians engage in romp of sex everyday, more than their muslim counterpart.

So almost everyone is doing it, right?

But that doesn’t make it everyone.

And even if everyone is doing it does that make it right?

Truth: Sex outside marriage remains wrong in God’s eyes, not by consensus.

Besides you are not everyone.

We need to remember that christianity is a personal race. We are individually responsible for our actions, and inaction. No wonder Paul asks us “not to be foolish but learn what the Lord wants you to do” (Eph 5:17).

Leviticus also command, “Do not follow the crowd in doing wrong” (Ex 23:2).

“Without reservation,” wrote Matt Costella. “The word of God explicitly forbid sexual activity outside the bounds of marriage, despite the fact that the society in which we live readily accepts fornication and immorality as ‘normal’ and even glorifies it”.

That’s right, Matt.

Well, those are the four ‘sexcuses’ are the top on my list. More are coming later.

Meanwhile, let me know if you have any ‘sexcuse’ you’ll like to debunk. Share with us, please.

Segun Dada is God’s Own Errand Boy, and Yours. He writes to relegate fluffy stuffs by promoting real Values.